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miketinakids · Joined: 02 Feb 2006 Posts: 1

My 20 year old son is getting married in August. What are my responsibilities in this wedding? I don't want to take over or be viewed as not interested.

tiger21 · Joined: 17 Feb 2006 Posts: 1

Here are the responsibilities of the Groom's family. This is out of my wedding planner book, but you can adjust to whatever fits the wedding needs........

1. Own travel expenses and attire
2. rehearsal dinner
3. wedding gift for bridal couple
4. bride's wedding ring
5. gift for groom's attendants (usually the same as the bride's)
6. medical exam for groom including blood test
7. bride's bouquet and going away corsage
8. mothers' and gradnmothers' corsages
9. all boutonnieres
10. officiant's fee
11. marriage license
12. honeymoon expenses

Now I am getting married and trust me my family and his family are paying for a lot, and so are we, so this list can be condensed. So don't go breathless now.......

If you are wondering here is what the bride's family is supposed to pay for:
1.engagement party
2. wedding consultant fee
3. bridal gown, veil, and accessories
4. wedding stationary, calligraphy, and postage
4. wedding gift for bridal couple
5. groom's wedding ring
6. gift for bridesmaids
7. pre-wedding parties and bridemaids' luncheon
8. photography and videography
9. bride's medical exam and blood test
10. wedding gust book and other accessories
11. Total cost of the ceremony, including location, flowers, music, rental items, and accessories
12. Total cost of the reception, including location, flowers, music, rental items, accessories, food, beverage, cake, decorations, favors, and etc
13. transportation for the bridal party to the ceremony and the reception
14. own attire and expenses

Now we broke it down 1/2 way for my wedding...........again this is just out of a book. The best bet is to sit down with all parties involve and discuss who wants to pay for what.

Scilla

cek040778 · Joined: 20 Feb 2006 Posts: 1 Location: Maryland

It really all depends on your budget. My parents aren't in a financial position to help much, so my fiance and i are handling the bulk of the expenses. My fiance's parents have offered to contribute a significant amount to our budget.
I think that the etiquette rules have changed significantly with people getting married later in life (although not in your son's case). Offer as much financial support at you're comfortable offering. Happy Planning!

ryan0302 · Joined: 17 May 2006 Posts: 1 Location: Maple Grove

My fiance's family doesn't make as much as my family does, so they are helping when they can. Thats it. Its different for every situation.

jtmoney24 · Joined: 02 Jun 2006 Posts: 2

There are a lot of rules that many people are getting away from; primarily the brides family use to be responsible for the bulk of the wedding. Now it depends on the budget and how financially stable each side is to help out with the expenses. Also many couples often contribute as well.