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bride2b · Joined: 23 Feb 2008 Posts: 1

Is it respectable to ask for gift cards or money only for shower and wedding gifts if you and your finace don't have any ideas of what to register for for your bridal shower/wedding? We are both established and have been living on our own for several years and are struggling with our registry.

blucnvrtbl · Joined: 25 Feb 2008 Posts: 1

My understanding is that it's not proper to actually "ask" for cash gifts; if you aren't going to register anywhere, you would need to rely on your family and wedding party passing the word. When we got married, we had already been living together and also really didn't need any of the traditional gifts; we registered on the Knot for a few of things that we would like to have but maybe wouldn't buy for ourselves; they also at the time had the option of setting up a honeymoon registry, where your guests can "buy" you contributions towards your honeymoon trip. While no-one took advantage of that option it did sort of get the message across that there are a few things we registered for but really cash was the most desired gift. Hope that helps! (P.S. your bridal party, when asked "where are they registered" can simply provide the answer, that the gift you'd really like is help paying for the honeymoon, or that you're saving for a house, etc.). Good luck on the wedding planning!